Monday, April 11, 2016

Time. And How It Heals.

Remember that time on June 23 when I had a spot removed from my face?

(That's the spot, right beside my tear duct.)

This is what my face looked like 8 hours post op.

And this is what my face looked like most of last summer...

And then I stopped taking close up pics of my face.


Are you in the midst of a Time-Will-Heal-This situation? Is the wound still open? Is the blood still seeping? Have the stitches started itching? Are scabs forming? Is the bruising lightening up? What part of the healing process are you currently in?

Know this.

Time does heal most things.

When my marriage ended it was predicted that I would grieve one year for every 5 years that my ex and I were together. "They" were right.

And I was told it would take 2 years for my face to heal. And I'm going to believe "they" are right about this too.

There is nothing I can do to speed up the process. Healing takes time.
But I can stop taking pics of my scar site and obsessing over it. I can do what was recommended, and that is to wear sunscreen on my face when I'm in the sun. I can gently massage the area once a day for a few minutes. And I can wear make up so that while the healing is taking place, I can carry on about my business without worrying that everyone is looking at it and wondering what happened.

Because that's the thing with healing. A tiny, indiscernible amount of healing takes place every day. It's not like you go for 729 days with a gaping wound that is still leaking blood to completely healed on that magical day at the end of 2 years. Nope; every day along the way, it gets better.  (And if it's not - then go back to the professionals to find out what needs to be done to get back on track.)


All that to say, by way of encouragement, is that you will recover from the pain of divorce, the emptiness of a broken relationship, the grief of a death, the wounds from surgery, in time.

Ten months later, the surgical site is still healing.
Without make-up it's more obvious, so really, only me and God know how large that surgical site bump is and where the zig zag scar starts and ends.

And if this is as good as it gets? I'm OK with that. 85% healed is an "A".


Three things I'm thankful for:

1. Time

2. Smart people

3. Make-up

4. Friends who are willing to watch TV in my basement with me, but text first to determine the dress code.
Her: Are we were comfy clothes?
Me: Yes.
Her: Bras?
Me: Mine is not currently on, but I didn't want to expose you to that so I was planning on pulling the girls up out of my pants and have them hoisted to where they belong before you get here.
Her: If you must.

5. Friends who set aside your favorite eggs for you at their Easter celebration and give them to you two weeks later when you go out for dinner. This? Is love.

6. And I am especially thankful for hot sunny Saturdays.
This is where I sat while I did laundry.

Shalom friends,

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